Wednesday, January 30, 2013

10 Reasons Why You Should Not Continue To Have Sex With A Man That Will Not Marry You

Listen ladies.  After listening to several conversations had by my female relatives and friends ...I felt the need to create this list.  This list ONLY applies to those of you that want to be in committed relationships and/or get married.  If you dont...?  Not for you.  I aint got nothing against single people hooking up with no strings IF that is what they BOTH want.  This is for those of you who are in long term-sex mostly-aaand you want more relationships.  Capiche?

Reason #1:  STD's.  If he is continuing to do you without real commitment, then he is doing someone else too.  This is how diseases spread.

Reason #2:  Guys don't typically "wife"  their F&%*Buddies.  ok?

Reason #3:  How are you going to feel when he proposes to the next chick that's not giving it to him?

Reason #4.  You are worth more than that.

Reason #5:  He does not respect you.  Especially if he knows that he can't or won't give you what you want.  A real man would not do this.

Reason #6:  Nobody gets younger.  Yes we are aging every day.  Don't waste your youth and your beauty on a man that only wants to pleasure himself with you.

Reason #7:  What is in it for you to keep doing this?  You already know that he cant give you what you want.  Sex will not change his mind.

Reason #8:  While you're wasting time with him, there could be someone else out there waiting for you.

Reason #9:  Make no mistake...He IS using you.

Reason #10:  You deserve better.

There are a THOUSAND more reasons, but these are my best 10.  Feel free to add more reasons in the comments.  For those who needed this... I hope it helps you think about your worth.

Thanks for reading.


Monday, January 28, 2013

The Unemployed Chronicles - The Early Days

Sooooo I lost my job!!  Got "job eliminated" after 17 years of dedicated service.  Technically its only been 4 days, but since I have never been without a job it seems like a lifetime and it feels kind of weird.  Of course I have to blog about this.  I am going through a range of emotions.  At first I was angry and then I got really scared.  That was the 1st hour. Then I realized that I was actually off for the rest of the day.  Oh yeah? After months of working 7 days a week at a rate of 80+ hours per week my mind could not comprehend what this meant.  Let me see if I understand.  You want me to leave? aaand you are gonna pay me while I figure out who I am and what I want to really do with my life?  I'm trying to find a problem with this... but I cant.

Day 1:  First things first... Let's eat some pancakes.  Yeah I know, butter, syrup all bad.  But I lost my job yo!  I ate them effin pancakes...then got some more.  Damn you Aunt Jemima!!

Day 2:  Today was a blur of more comfort food and Netflix videos...and I picked up applications everywhere I went!

Day 3: I spent day 3 at the dentist getting stuff done that should have been done.  I'm smiling in this picture, cheesin actually... but you cant tell because my entire face has been numbed and they gave me those shades. I got the nerve to STILL think I'm cute! Whatever.

Sistah at the dentist
OMG when did I order all of these shoes from Coach?  Don't do that ya'll.

Day 4:  You know what...??  I'm going to a meet up!  This one focused on Technology and Business seems right up my alley and right in time!  Thank you Chocolate Chat Atlanta!

This photo is courtesy of @SwarthyDaisy
All in all, I am SO excited about what my future holds and I am uber eager to delve into what I love to do!  Just as one door has closed windows are already popping open everywhere!

Stay tuned for so much more from me and as always, thank you for reading.

Mammograms, Blood Draws & Paps.. Oh My! Women's Health

In the past year I have had two cancer scares.  Its true.  My gyn found something on my uterus last March and 6 months later my family doctor found a lesion on my lung.  Both were completely benign but I am so glad that having the routine check ups enabled them to be found, examined and ruled out.  Its a very scary thing to have the Dr tell you that anything has to be looked at again or that things have to be "ruled out".   Please go to the Dr. if you can and get yourself checked out for everything.  I passed my mammogram with flying colors and even though it hurts like hell I go faithfully.  I share this personal thing with you today because I have a voice and as a Black woman I know that we are often apprehensive about our health and the unknown.  I don't need a special month to focus on this topic because to me EVERY month is Women's Health Month.  Don't be afraid.  Go on and get those check ups TODAY!  Early detection is everything.

I've got a couple of other health issues that WILL be taken care of in 2013.  Stay tuned for my journey.

3 of my most important reasons to get and stay healthy!
My Children
Thanks for reading!

Sunday, January 27, 2013

Chocolate Chat Atlanta - Technology for Business Professionals

When I heard that it was time for Chocolate Chat Atlanta's 1st event of the year, I could not wait to get there!  Chocolate Chat Atlanta does not disappoint when it comes to throwing fantastically informative meetup type events for the metro Atlanta community.  Our host @SwarthyDaisy did it again by bringing us Terrance Gaines aka @BrothaTech to talk to us about Technology for Business Professionals.  Terrance is the Chief Gadget Officer of and I was eager to absorb everything that he had to say.

We were greeted and promptly seated upon arrival.  Each guest received a lovely portfolio that included everything needed to take notes and network at this event.  PLUS a bag of what else??? CHOCOLATE!

@BrothaTech spoke to us about some of the key things we needed to know when it comes to choosing a device. He also recommended the best apps to use for entrepreneurs on the go.  He even went a step further and talked to us about how some of the apps could be used with different devices.  It was really cool because we were able to follow along with his presentation on our ipads/tablets as he talked.  He took questions at the end.


Marlee's Coffee & Tea House served a light dinner with select choices from their menu.  (This was included in the ticket price.)

  And of course no Chocolate Chat is complete without the networking...  An evening well spent!

For more info on Chocolate Chat Atlanta, please check out their FB page

For more pics of this event please check out The SistahChick & Our Natural Kids !!

Thanks for reading!!