Saturday, February 9, 2013

I Love Me Because...I'm Different!

"I Love Me..." events are the brainchild of Julia Davis of TruChatOnline.com.  Created to help promote self esteem for kids in a fun and safe environment. It is truly the celebration of children.  Each event comes with a different theme.  In 2012 my daughter and I attended two "I Love Me..." events:
"I Love Me and I Have the Right to Remain Curly" and  "I Love Me Naturally - A Pajama Party"
My daughter loved these events so much that I decided to join Ms Davis in planning and sponsoring the next "I Love Me...."  event.

In honor of children, natural hair, Valentine's Day AND Black History Month TruChatOnline.com and The SistahChick and Our Natural Kids presents... "I Love Me Because... I'm Different!"



This Fro Fashion Week sanctioned event will be held on February 28th, 2013 at the Smyrna Rec Center from 6:30pm to 9:30pm.  Here are just SOME of the activities that we have planned for the kids:

*Arts & Crafts
*Motivational Speaker
*Black History Month Heroes Contest 
*Self Esteem Building projects
*Zumba
*Vendors
*Give Aways
*AND MORE!

This is a FREE event!  Atlanta, Join us on 2/28 for a fun filled evening that focuses on the kids by teaching them to celebrate their uniqueness!
Register a spot for your child today!  

Thanks for reading.

Peace


Sunday, February 3, 2013

Master Your Kinks Workshop at Darcy's Botanicals

I was so excited to be invited to attend the Master Your Kinks natural hair workshop at Darcy's Botanicals, A Hair and Body Care Boutique located in Marietta, Ga.  



The event was hosted by:
Lysandra Taylor - Owner of Darcy's Botanicals
Telise Adams - Director of Education for Darcy's Botanicals 
Hayley Dennis, Owner of Ma Mocha Naturals

This was the 1st in a series of educational workshops that will be presented to teach naturals how to care for and style their own natural hair through hands on training.  

The topic of today's Master Your Kinks Session was "Bantu Knots"

Bantu Knots
Telise was very thorough in demonstrating how to do Bantu Knots.  She also showed how Darcy's Botanicals Hair Care line could be used for this style.  


Once the demonstration was complete every attendee was off to their own stations to practice the technique on their own hair!  



A DJ spun music in the background and prizes were given away every half hour.

Prize Winners!
Gourmet Food was served courtesy of Chef Dontrell of Bon Vivant Private Catering.


Marinated Vege Salad w/Arugula
 & Fetta Viniagrette
I had always wanted to visit Darcy's Botanicals ever since I heard that they opened a storefront in Atlanta.  I was very pleased to find a very inviting atmosphere and welcoming people who seemed eager to assist and who were very positive energy wise. 

Darcy's Botanicals Owner Lysandra Taylor & The SistahChick
I cant wait to try the products that were included in my goodie bag!  Stay tuned for a review!

For more Master Your Kinks Pics 


Thanks for reading!

Peace :-)

Friday, February 1, 2013

The "N" Word - A Commentary

NIGGER
(Merriam - Webster Online) 
Main Entry: nig·ger 
Pronunciation: \ˈni-gər\
Function: noun
Etymology: alteration of earlier neger, from Middle French negre, from Spanish or Portuguese negro, from negro black, from Latin niger

1: usually offensive; a black person
2: usually offensive;  a member of any dark-skinned race
3: a member of a socially disadvantaged class of persons

As early as the 1600's the word Nigger or variations of it can be found in various communications between New World Settlers and Explorers.  The word itself is derived from the Latin word Niger and merely means "Black".  The word was not considered derogatory until the advent of American Slavery.  Its usage by American Slave Owners as a negative term to describe African Slaves is what catapaulted it into the unfavorable connotation that it carries today.  The" N-word" as it is referred to today, now carries with it, a history that no other word in the English language shares.  The mere mention of it reveals a past of hatred, genocide, human slavery and  torture.  It is no longer a word that innocently describes a color, but a word used to negatively describe a race of people.

In an effort to take the sting from the word's 300 year evil past, African Americans in todays society, use a variation of it (Nigga) to refer to one another.  It is used amongst fellow Blacks as a term of endearment and brotherhood.  The phrase:  "Whats up my Niggas!?" when used amongst Blacks is merely a salutation used to greet people who are considered family, or friends.  However, once the word leaves the lips of a non Black person it again becomes a negative backed by a history of slavery. 

Should the N-Word ever be used by anyone?
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We live in a day and age, where the word is considered to be a derogatory term in most circles. It could possibly take another couple hundred years, before the word can be restored back to its original meaning (black).  

As members of 21st century American society, our knowledge of the N-word only has the one meaning to most of us.  Whether it started out as a term used to describe a color or not, that is not what it means to the majority when uttered now. 

To My Brothers and Sisters of Color:   I think that we,  have more to define ourselves than just our beautiful skin tones.  Our skin is merely an indicator of the region where our ancestors come from.  It should be worn proudly and with honor, no matter what color it is.  It should not, however be the sole defintion of another human being.  Instead of referring to ourselves as "Niggas!"  Replace the word with Scholars! Soldiers! Brothers! Teachers!, Sisters!, Homegirls! Queens!, Kings!, Leaders!, Entrepreneurs!, Mothers!, Fathers! 
We ARE more.

To My Brothers and Sisters who are NOT of Color:  The word is NEVER appropriate for you to use.  No matter the context.


Happy Black History Month!

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Wednesday, January 30, 2013

10 Reasons Why You Should Not Continue To Have Sex With A Man That Will Not Marry You

Listen ladies.  After listening to several conversations had by my female relatives and friends ...I felt the need to create this list.  This list ONLY applies to those of you that want to be in committed relationships and/or get married.  If you dont...?  Not for you.  I aint got nothing against single people hooking up with no strings IF that is what they BOTH want.  This is for those of you who are in long term-sex mostly-aaand you want more relationships.  Capiche?

Reason #1:  STD's.  If he is continuing to do you without real commitment, then he is doing someone else too.  This is how diseases spread.

Reason #2:  Guys don't typically "wife"  their F&%*Buddies.  ok?

Reason #3:  How are you going to feel when he proposes to the next chick that's not giving it to him?

Reason #4.  You are worth more than that.

Reason #5:  He does not respect you.  Especially if he knows that he can't or won't give you what you want.  A real man would not do this.

Reason #6:  Nobody gets younger.  Yes we are aging every day.  Don't waste your youth and your beauty on a man that only wants to pleasure himself with you.

Reason #7:  What is in it for you to keep doing this?  You already know that he cant give you what you want.  Sex will not change his mind.

Reason #8:  While you're wasting time with him, there could be someone else out there waiting for you.

Reason #9:  Make no mistake...He IS using you.

Reason #10:  You deserve better.

There are a THOUSAND more reasons, but these are my best 10.  Feel free to add more reasons in the comments.  For those who needed this... I hope it helps you think about your worth.

Thanks for reading.

Peace

Monday, January 28, 2013

The Unemployed Chronicles - The Early Days

Sooooo I lost my job!!  Got "job eliminated" after 17 years of dedicated service.  Technically its only been 4 days, but since I have never been without a job it seems like a lifetime and it feels kind of weird.  Of course I have to blog about this.  I am going through a range of emotions.  At first I was angry and then I got really scared.  That was the 1st hour. Then I realized that I was actually off for the rest of the day.  Oh yeah? After months of working 7 days a week at a rate of 80+ hours per week my mind could not comprehend what this meant.  Let me see if I understand.  You want me to leave? aaand you are gonna pay me while I figure out who I am and what I want to really do with my life?  I'm trying to find a problem with this... but I cant.

Day 1:  First things first... Let's eat some pancakes.  Yeah I know, butter, syrup all bad.  But I lost my job yo!  I ate them effin pancakes...then got some more.  Damn you Aunt Jemima!!



Day 2:  Today was a blur of more comfort food and Netflix videos...and I picked up applications everywhere I went!



Day 3: I spent day 3 at the dentist getting stuff done that should have been done.  I'm smiling in this picture, cheesin actually... but you cant tell because my entire face has been numbed and they gave me those shades. I got the nerve to STILL think I'm cute! Whatever.

Sistah at the dentist
OMG when did I order all of these shoes from Coach?  Don't do that ya'll.



Day 4:  You know what...??  I'm going to a meet up!  This one focused on Technology and Business seems right up my alley and right in time!  Thank you Chocolate Chat Atlanta!

This photo is courtesy of @SwarthyDaisy
All in all, I am SO excited about what my future holds and I am uber eager to delve into what I love to do!  Just as one door has closed windows are already popping open everywhere!

Stay tuned for so much more from me and as always, thank you for reading.


Mammograms, Blood Draws & Paps.. Oh My! Women's Health

In the past year I have had two cancer scares.  Its true.  My gyn found something on my uterus last March and 6 months later my family doctor found a lesion on my lung.  Both were completely benign but I am so glad that having the routine check ups enabled them to be found, examined and ruled out.  Its a very scary thing to have the Dr tell you that anything has to be looked at again or that things have to be "ruled out".   Please go to the Dr. if you can and get yourself checked out for everything.  I passed my mammogram with flying colors and even though it hurts like hell I go faithfully.  I share this personal thing with you today because I have a voice and as a Black woman I know that we are often apprehensive about our health and the unknown.  I don't need a special month to focus on this topic because to me EVERY month is Women's Health Month.  Don't be afraid.  Go on and get those check ups TODAY!  Early detection is everything.

I've got a couple of other health issues that WILL be taken care of in 2013.  Stay tuned for my journey.

3 of my most important reasons to get and stay healthy!
My Children
Thanks for reading!

Sunday, January 27, 2013

Chocolate Chat Atlanta - Technology for Business Professionals

When I heard that it was time for Chocolate Chat Atlanta's 1st event of the year, I could not wait to get there!  Chocolate Chat Atlanta does not disappoint when it comes to throwing fantastically informative meetup type events for the metro Atlanta community.  Our host @SwarthyDaisy did it again by bringing us Terrance Gaines aka @BrothaTech to talk to us about Technology for Business Professionals.  Terrance is the Chief Gadget Officer of BrothaTech.com and I was eager to absorb everything that he had to say.

We were greeted and promptly seated upon arrival.  Each guest received a lovely portfolio that included everything needed to take notes and network at this event.  PLUS a bag of what else??? CHOCOLATE!


@BrothaTech spoke to us about some of the key things we needed to know when it comes to choosing a device. He also recommended the best apps to use for entrepreneurs on the go.  He even went a step further and talked to us about how some of the apps could be used with different devices.  It was really cool because we were able to follow along with his presentation on our ipads/tablets as he talked.  He took questions at the end.


@BrothaTech

Marlee's Coffee & Tea House served a light dinner with select choices from their menu.  (This was included in the ticket price.)




  And of course no Chocolate Chat is complete without the networking...  An evening well spent!



For more info on Chocolate Chat Atlanta, please check out their FB page
https://www.facebook.com/ChocolateChatAtlanta?fref=ts

For more pics of this event please check out The SistahChick & Our Natural Kids !!

Thanks for reading!!




Monday, December 31, 2012

Fro Fashion Week Fall 2012

I wanted my last post of 2012 to be about something that I know, love and am glad to be a part of....  Fro Fashion Week - Atlanta.  Fro Fashion Week is an Atlanta based event that is the brain child of Ms. Tarin Boone.  It is a bi annual week long celebration of natural black beauty.  Since its inception, founder Tarin Boone has taken special care to showcase not only the beauty of African American women, but also to promote black business and networking along with fashion and entertainment.  I have been attending Fro Fashion Week since Fall 2011 and I am honored to have been selected as a Lead Press Supporter for the last  2 installments of this event (Spring 2012 & Fall 2012).  PLUS I just found out recently that I have been selected as Lead Press Supporter again for Fro Fashion Week Spring/Summer 2013!!  Being a Lead Press Supporter gives me front row and backstage access to ALL of the components of the event.  Please enjoy just a few of the many moments that were captured during the Fall 2012 show!!

Fro Fashion Week plays host to MANY beauty professionals and products lines and brings you the best workshops available:







The Blogger's Brunch is one of the many highlights of Fro Fashion Week.  It brings together subject matter experts and bloggers who interested in growing their personal brand into a money maker.  Fall 2012 brought us the guru behind MattieOlogie.com Mattie James.  We learned so much.  A key piece that stood out to me was her definition of how to use your VOICE as it relates to blogging/branding.

V ~ Verify if this is really what you want to be doing!  You need to love this to be successful at it.
O ~ Offer yourself on a silver platter to your audience!  give them your best & they will respond!
I ~ Invent yourself!  Your blog may start out being one thing and end up being another. (It's ok!)
C ~ Challenge yourself
E - Expect to Win!!

We were all very inspired!











After a long and exciting day of activities, seminars and Bloggers Brunch, its time to let our natural hair down at the Fro Fashion Week Penthouse party!!  The Penthouse at the Melia hotel has the entire Atlanta City Skyline as its backdrop.  The view is amazing at night!!









Last but certainly not least there is the fiercest fashion show out there and the grande finale of this culmination of fashion and natural beauty.






Fro Fashion Week Founder Tarin Boone (right)




I hope that you enjoyed the recap.  for more on Fro Fashion Week, please check out http://frofashionweek.com/  

To see more pics:
Penthouse Party!
https://www.facebook.com/media/set/?set=a.414170541972211.118626.170493373006597&type=3

Bloggers Brunch!
https://www.facebook.com/media/set/?set=a.412952262094039.118251.170493373006597&type=3

Workshops
https://www.facebook.com/media/set/?set=a.411450592244206.117887.170493373006597&type=3

Fashion Show:
https://www.facebook.com/media/set/?set=a.436450499744215.123159.170493373006597&type=3

To see more of what you have been missing check out my previous Fro Fashion Week Blog Post!

I hope that you have had a joyous 2012 and wish you a prosperous 2013.  Thank you so much for showing your support by reading my blog this year.  Please come back often!

Peace!


Sunday, November 4, 2012

I Heart Handbags!

I don't know exactly what my fashion style is.  I just buy what I like.  I consider myself to be a funky 40+ chick and I think my style is fun.  I'll let the more established fashion bloggers tell you whats in and whats out.  I'll just show you what I like, and I hope you like it too!

Two years ago I went on a mission to replace all of my handbags with designer bags.  I did it by color, first replacing my black bags with real leather bags.  Then I moved to the browns, reds and miscellaneous.  Why?  I don't know.  A friend of mine got me a Coach bag as a gift and I've been hooked ever since.  My other bags simply paled in comparison.  Now I am obsessed with recreating my collection with designer or designer looking alternatives and I must say... I'm having a ball!  Here are a few of my favorite finds so far!

Coach Zoe
(Gun Metal)
Coach Soho
(Chestnut Brown)

Coach Pleated Soho
(Black)

I simply adore all of these bags and the 3 colors match pretty much everything I have.  I got them all at a Coach Outlet so they were all heavily discounted.  The leather is soft and amazing.  These are not enormous bags, which I like.  I feel that they can all be carried during any season.


Michael Kors Tote
(Cheetah/Canvas)
I love a little animal print in the summers and this MK Canvas bag is light weight and perfect for warmer months.  TJ Maxx is where I found this lovely tote.
Jessica Simpson Satchel
(Navajo)

Nothing like a little faux fur to spice up your winter.  This bag is fun.. and it holds a lot! Another gem that was found at TJ Maxx.

Well I am off to hunt for more bags!  

Thanks for reading